Curiosity over Judgement

When we were little, curiosity came naturally to us, it was well meaning adults who wanted to keep us safe who taught us to turn away from curiosity and we learnt instead to make judgments.

Judgments rely on being able to categorise things easily and if they aren't one thing they are the opposite, think good/bad, yes/no, healthy/unhealthy, interesting/boring, these categories leave little room for anything in between.

Judgements can stop us from looking closer, making our own assessment, looking for an indication that something isn't all bad or all good.

We have learnt to reflect on things through judgement but this doesn't allow us to go very deep, think about the last time you asked someone how their day was, you likely got the answer: good or bad.

Jugement doesn't go deep.

Here are a few questions you can use to help you shift out of judgement and into curiosity:

-What does good mean?

eg: It was a really good day!

Hmmmm what does good mean?

Well I woke up early and got to do some exercise and while I was exercising I listen to a podcast I love, my whole day seemed to go great after that

-What allowed that to happen?

eg: That meeting ran really smoothly

Hmmmm what allowed that to happen?

After last meeting I learnt that I need to have the link handy so I could send it to someone quickly so I had an email drafted already in case someone needed help getting online, it made it so easy, I wasn't stressed at all and I felt focused

-I wonder why........?

eg: I'm always late! I need to do better, be better etc!

I wonder why I'm always late?

I think it's because I get overwhelmed with everything else I have going on and I always underestimate how much time I need, I wonder how I can change this habit

When we get curious we open the possibilities of what something can be, there is no one way to answer. With the extra space we give ourselves we can find more possible answers and solutions to our needs.